I had another post scheduled for today, but the spirit of “How to Swallow… Your Words” is still with me and I found myself thinking about serial posts on the subject.
I was talking with my good friend and blolleague Kathy (Sound Clarity) last night, and somehow we got around to comparing how we use words to a leaky bladder. (I know, UGH, right?). There was a time that I could not use a public bathroom AT ALL. I would hold it and hold it and hold it until I got to a “safe” place to pee. The closer I got to forty, and the more babies I had, I found that peeing in public bathrooms was just not that big of a deal. If you gotta go, you gotta go. The consensus is this: the older one gets, the harder it is to control one’s bladder.
It has become embarrassingly obvious that my mouth is going through a similar process. Just 10 years ago, I gave deep thought and evaluation to what I said to people, how I presented myself through words, the message I gave in communicating my feelings. I waited until I felt “safe” before I said what I had to say. Now, I have found that stuff just leaks out! Did I say that? Like that? Yes. Yes, I did. Out of my mouth, on paper, it just comes out.
It’s not always bad. Age, opportunity and experience have culled a lot extra fluff from my conversations. I get right to the point. I don’t always try to fit my dialog to please or appease people, not because I don’t want to, but because often I don’t have time.
Likewise, time has trained my tongue, so I don’t have to work as hard to be appropriate; however, sometimes, I dont wait to get to a “safe” place before the steady stream of words flow. I can’t pull the words back in, or change the direction of the stream.
Herein lies the reason why I need to commune with God constantly, all day, everyday, so that my words may be tempered by God’s presence. Only God can control the stream of words that may fly out of my forty-plus, I ain’t got time to be playing around with you, mouth. I’m not quite sure what will come out at times. Michel Montaigne put it best in his essay, “The Inconsistency of Man’s Actions.” He argues that we can try to predict what people will do or say based on the past, but man contradicts himself so much, it seems as if there are two different people in one body. Therefore we may predict potential, but we cant predict the future. I have to lend over my language to the one who does.
So as you navigate your day, lovelies, remember sometimes age brings about the unconcerned fruit of an uncontrolled tongue. Wake up to a conversation with God so that your responses and reactions will promote Peace.