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Category: Her Relationships


I wish that I could honestly say that a heartfelt apology is for you and not the other person. I can’t. Sometimes, an apology is for the other person, too. Sometimes the apology may not be for you at all and just for the other person. It’s about reconciling hearts to each other. It’s about restorative relationships. It’s about showing up for someone who needs to know you care enough to come back and offer recompense for an offense, and that makes the other person feel really special and valued, kinda like you want to feel sometimes.

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Take What You Can Take

The thing is, your co-workers, church members, ministry team members, all of these folks are people, too. They have hearts, souls, and purposes which are probably grander than… (gulp) your feelings. Don’t they deserve the same consideration? I would argue they do, and here’s why. I want folks (and I mean every folk in the universe) to consider me, even when I’m being less than considerable. I take what I can take from the person who is the thorn of the day (because it’s not always the same person), because I know I’d want them to grant me the same grace.

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Gone Let ‘Em Go

Folks be wrong sometimes, and they need to admit it. If your person is your person, like your roady, your ten toes down, your hitta; if that person hurts you, s/he should be quick to apologize, like with lightening speed. When a person shows you that they are loyal to your relationship, nothing will keep them from maintaining it and bringing about reconciliation. Real hittas don’t leave gaps in relationships. Their pride means nothing when it comes to maintaining a friendship. If an apology is a problem, the friendship is a problem.

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