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The Loving a Woman series has been very helpful to many. I receive all of your responses and thoughts about the series. I really truly appreciate you, allowing God to minister through me to you.

Today men we are going to discuss some more characteristics of how to treat and look at a woman. Men, have you ever been out somewhere and saw a beautiful Queen, and you made some comments to the other brothers you were with? We all have made comments about a woman. Men when we renew our minds and not be like the world anymore, we approach that woman and tell her she is beautiful. Men we are not expecting anything in return. Not a phone number, email, house number, car phone, twitter nothing. We simply want to be gentlemen in our process as being men of God.

Men, women already know before we walk up if they are going to give you their information. When God is leading you and you have applied the foundation, which is having a relationship with Him, he will let you know who is for you. God knows the desires of our hearts.  Most of the time we don’t listen to God when we approach women. Some men approach every Queen they come across, but if that man had wisdom he would know that women are friends of friends and they talk, now the man has a reputation that he doesn’t like.

If a man approaches a woman and she has an attitude and gets smart with you. That means she is probably not the one for you.  Don’t curse her because she does not give you what you want. Most men that curse our Queen don’t realize who they are as men, and also have control issues. We should never disrespect any Queen. Women are supposed to feel like Queens everyday all day of thier lives. I encourage you to speak to every Queen, open the door for every Queen, help every Queen down the steps, open every car door every time for our Queen. Even when we don’t know them. Bottom line. A WOMAN SHOULD NEVER HAVE TO MOVE A MUSCLE!!!! Because 9 times out of ten she is always in the presence of a man! Men help that woman take her coat off and put it on. This is our job. Respect women everyday of your life.

Married men shouldn’t look at their wives as just sex toys. We have to step up and be men, we are to deposit life in her daily.  We can’t withdraw everyday and then expect her her to cook, wash clothes, do house chores, take care of the kids. Etc.  Help out!

Let me give you an example. I met this woman by the name of, lets just say, Janet Doe, years back and I approached her in the grocery store. Let me set the scene for you:

Maurice:  “May I help you put your groceries in the car?”

Janet:  Sure

Maurice:  Hi, I’m Maurice Farmer (My REAL NAME, men)

Janet:  I’m Janet Doe.

Maurice:  Nice to meet you.  Are you married or seeing someone?

Janet:  No, I’m not

So we exchanged numbers. It’s the way you approach women, men. Years later we crossed paths again and started a courtship process.  As I got to know her through communication she told me she liked things that I knew nothing about like plants, planting, flowers etc.  We as men have to be involved with things that we have never done and be HAPPY doing it. I used to plant her garden after I did some research, bought her flowers all the time not just on valentines day. And now I have plants in my home. Always wrote her poems from my heart. It is ok to be sensitive to your woman men. Trust me I was not always there. It could be something as simple as “Roses are Red, violets are blue, baby loving you as a woman is what I was designed to do.” Always have something that you can do for her.

Men we hear and women see!!! Women love the small things men, and the sensitive side. Men, your woman’s car should never be dirty. We have to tell our women how beautiful they are, smart, talented, and we love them so much, they should say to themselves this man is loving on me so much I don’t know how to respond. We have this under control, we just need some guidance. Remember men, have the mentality that your woman does not have to move a muscle because you are always there. Men Love our QUEENS like you never have before.

Mr. Bow Tie

Born and raised in Memphis, TN Maurice Farmer, Jr. is a gifted musician and obvious steward of God’s word, especially when it pertains to the relationship between the sexes.  Since his early discovery of his gift and love for music, Maurice has used his gift by teaching and playing music at several prestigious venues including the Daivd Letterman show.  Added to his musical flair is his flair for fashion.  Hope Today Magazine.com featured him in their September issue for his unique and dapper style of dress.  It was at this time that his moniker, “Mr. Bow Tie” became a definition for his eclectic and urban style.  Interestingly enough, Maurice has also been able to minister as a Fashion Consultant.  On top of all of this, he is a member of the 100 Black Men with the mission to nurture and enhance the growth development and opportunities for young black males in middle Tennessee.  This particular article is syndicated from Maurice Farmer’s”Loving a Woman” series which can be found on his Facebook page where he also hosts a forum that highlights Figuring Out Your Purpose and Walking Directly into Your Destiny.  Hopefully we will hear from Mr. Bow Tie more on the blog.  Thank you, Maurice for taking time out of your busy schedule to share your God-inspired words of wisdom with the Who’s That Lady Family.