Holding onto unforgiveness tighter than a fat girl in a girdle three sizes too small is a definite gateway to a diseased and numbed out existence. It freezes you in a steady state of anger and distrust, which jades your worldview. Unforgiveness is the lingering fishy smell of rotting crawfish shells in the trashcan of your heart, way after the etouffee has been eaten. Remember the odor that dominates the entire home when you forget to dump rotten shrimp peelings? Febreeze and glade have no power over this level of stank! Candles can’t mask it and incense is less then effective. The only thing that alleviates the funk is to remove the rotten peelings, disinfect the entire home and saturate your dwelling with pleasant fragrances. Same principles of clean up goes for your heart in the form of forgiveness. Now we all know that! The question is…how? Glad you asked.
First we must decide to forgive. Most of us think we have forgiven an offense because we say we forgive. Wrong answer! Forgiveness is a decision and all decisions require action. The amplified bible breaks down James 2:17 perfectly! It reports, “So also faith, if it does not have works (deeds and actions of obedience to back it up), by itself is destitute of power (inoperative, dead).” Ah! It says we must have deeds and actions or whatever we are doing is dead! We do everything in the Kingdom of God by faith. We must slather it on the situation like we spread peanut butter and jelly on a sandwich. Faith has to be appropriated in the task of forgiveness. It is imperative we believe that regardless to the offense, the blood has the power to enable us to completely release the repetitive recollection and anger associated with a wrong against us.
We must to decide to believe the blood works – even on the most treacherous of offenses. This is like removing stank shellfish peelings from our home. Once we consider the power of the blood in these situations, we must move to disinfecting the home of our hearts by actively clearing the memory of the offense by utilizing the sword of the Spirit – the Word of God.
Satan uses the weapons of offense to build up negative mental strongholds that prevent God’s greatest blessings from entering our lives. God brings the spouse you have prayed for into your life, but you can’t receive it because Marcus dogged you out! God brings you a true friend to enhance your journey, but you think all females are trifling because an ex-girlfriend betrayed your trust. In order to disinfect these detrimental thought processes, we must employ the Word of God in our thoughts and out of our mouths. Thinking the correct thoughts about your offender is disinfecting your heart, and blessing the offender is cultivating a pleasant aroma throughout the rooms of your heart.
Proverbs 23:7 teaches, “For as he thinks in his heart, so is he.” If we are still thinking about the offense, we are still angry. We may think we are not, but we are. We are what we think about according to this scripture. It’s clearly stated! Thank God He explains how to think correctly in Philippians 4:8. He gives us options on how to implement the wisdom found in Proverbs. Thinking about true, honest, just, pure, lovely, good reports, virtuous and praiseworthy will manifest a colorful life. Reminiscing on Marcus ‘doing the donkey’ in your relationship is not a good report or praiseworthy! So stop it already!
Instead, pray for Marcus and quote the word over the wounded part of your heart. Quoting the Word over the offender is a vital key to wallowing in complete forgiveness. Comb the scriptures to find the promises of God associated with what you want to manifest in your life. Write them down. Use index cards and a black sharpie. Get them laminated. Roll up your sleeves and be prepared to fight the stronghold of unforgiveness by quoting the Word every time the offense runs across your mind. If you are around people – so what! Mumble it under your breath. Do you want to be cute or do you want to be free? Quoting the Word over the offender cleans out the wound, quoting the Word over yourself seals you back healthy and whole.
Lastly, you must not acknowledge the offense. That’s like opening an old wound. If someone says, “How is your girl Shonda doing?” You say, “Last I spoke with her she was doing well!” and say no more. Always bless the offender. Luke 6:28 directs, “ Bless those who curse you, pray for those who abuse you.” These components completely uproot the stronghold of unforgiveness in any area of life – granting freedom to live with an open-heart positioned to receive all the promises and blessings God longs to give.
This unclogs the passage leading to the full scope of an unadulterated Christian experience. It infuses an aroma of love, opportunities and new beginnings back into our hearts. It turns on the light in our soul again. Forgiveness grants peace to the one extending it. To extend the virtue of forgiveness, we must disinfect our hearts. We must keep our hearts clean by daily time with the Father. This completely removes the stanky shrimp shell smell out of hearts. This clears out funk out!